The Perfect Fit

We’ve been on this journey to discover LOVE, right? And when I really look at it, Love is quite natural the ELEMENTS. You’ve got Storge, Momma’s LOVE is like the EARTH it keeps you grounded... gives you a foundation and gravity. Without Storge, we’d be struggling with boundaries and just all over the place. Then you have Philio, the brotherly, friend type of love. It’s like WATER that quenches and refreshes the soul. Then there’s the FIRE of desire with Eros or Erotic Love. And now we are headed into Part Two of Agape which is like airs that sustains life (#WIND). 

Remember the creation, Adam who was designed, fashioned, and artfully sculpted by the Giver of Life. Hu”MAN”kind was beautiful and perfect in every way. And then the Creator and Father kissed him and breathed the breath of life into his lungs... MAN was completely activated and came alive. This a picture, the type, The Example of the 1st Love experience, and we all have had it in a similar way. Conception, gestation and birth pretty follows the same original formula since the beginning. Of course, science has made advances to overcome challenges in all areas from fertilization to birth. There's a passage that says:  

When I was being formed in secret, it was You who knit me together in my mother’s womb, and formed my innermost parts. I am skillfully and intricately made. Your eyes alone have seen my unformed substance. My soul knows quite well. When I awake each morning, you are still with me. This is PERFECT LOVE. When I was not yet what I am going to be... He loved me. We are Love’s designed. The right substances were together and then literally knit and held me together in our mother’s womb. And when moved from one environment to the next, given the equipment to adapt. On our birthday, we’re given the breath of Life, which goes on and on sustaining us everyday that we live. Now that’s love. Even if that were enough, there is soooo much more. Chiefly an unconditional, relentless, fiery, motivational, creative and sustaining, inhabitable love that satisfies, fulfills, takes care, shelters, protects, and supplies... Forever. You are right, no human being can give that kind of love. IT IS SUPERNATURAL. And although it is freely given (and available to all) the cost is more than you or I can afford. The good news is... the price has already been paid. You can find the map and instructions on how to find and get this treasure in the Bible, start with the book of John, read the whole thing. And don’t miss John 3:16. For the X that marks the spot, end with Romans 10: 9 & 10. Then it’s on you.   

The easiest way is not to run when you hear the “knock on your door” … the door to your heart. Trust me your day is coming, this One standing on the other side has your answers, but most importantly has the ability to fill your LOVE Void.  My question to you is... do you believe in REAL LOVE? I know, with everything that is going on in the world today, it’s hard. But it does exist. Get yours today. And if you need help... I’m here for you. CLICK HERE 

Oh heyyyy? The last stop on our Love Journey is SELF – Love, #Philautia. And you’ve heard it 1000 times... How can you love anyone else if you can’t love yourself. The trick to loving one’s self is to first KNOW THYSELF. And let me say, if you work hard enough, anyone can love themself, but my last question is: How can you truly know SELF if you’ve never asked AGAPE? So do that first and meet me back her next week for our last installment on LOVE. PS don’t run from this, it’s for your making.   

Erotic Love

MMMmmmm lets talk a little Eros, erotic love. I read this:

“Romance is not in my repertoire, Eva. But 1000 ways to make you come is. Let me show you.” (Quote from Sylvia Day’s erotic novel “Bared to you”)

Let me tell you how that makes me feel… all tingly inside. But continuing with our discussion, its only obvious that sex, even if it’s toe-curling, lip-biting, sheet-grabbing, orgasmic, mind-blowing sex… it does not equate to REAL LOVE. If you have the life-altering experience of that kind of sex, it SHOULD change you, it’s designed that way. Sex is a very powerful thing, just ask any Connoisseur of sex whose skills in the Art of Love-making create addicts. We won’t go into how they seek vulnerable people to self-medicate their own brokenness, for now.

Sex, however good or not, was designed to transform two people, into one. It was originally intended to be the glue of a life-partnership. So yeah, good sex, is addictive. Let me say this… I wish people that have no interest in committed relationships would stop calling sex “love-making” because their purpose is to “get off” not create love. And it’s that type of spirit that has reduced the beautiful, intimate and romantic act of “life-locking” into this common-place extraction of endorphins. Sex has become a social drug and “pushers,” (those who exchange without feelings) find the obsession of others both a blessing and a curse… depending on the situation. I feel the same way about them that I do pan-handlers and addicts begging on the street for money (I am not a fan.) I guess it matters because I want to straighten something out… and that’s how males and females handle “casual sex” differently.

You see although I don’t have an inside tract on how males feel, I think females have a harder time getting over “just sex.” The first time is memorable for mostly everyone but for the most part, dudes can just go home and wash away the experience with a shower. Why it’s different for females is that when a male enters her womb, a secret space (a sort of Pandora's box) – the center of her being a spiritual door is opened, a connection is made, and a piece of him/them stays even after the physical person leaves. If it was mind-blowing great sex, she’ll crave it from him again, and again and again. But the part I don’t want you to miss is ITS A SPIRITUAL CONNECTION. Whether she agrees to a “no strings attached” kinda thing – the war still rages on internally (emotionally, physically, intellectually.) Sure, people can turn it all off, or purposely stop the wanting… but the fact remains every time sex happens a little DNA is left behind (learned that in the Sex Education class in school.) Because “everybody is doing it” (seemingly) its an anomaly to be an old virgin. And so the only way to stifle the emotional connection is to desensitize, which you must do in order to have multiple sexual partners. SMH

Don’t get me wrong, I love sex. It does a body good. If it’s done right… there are no words that can express how it can make a person feel. And everybody wants to wanted, to be doted on, to be the object of a healthy obsession... but for real for real, most people just want to be loved. The problem is, people nowadays seem to lack the capacity for committed long-term relationships. The throw away Cancel Culture is killing us. How do you have REAL LOVE where there isn’t REAL commitment and staying power? I get it, people want to be free to do what feels good… yes by all means be sexually freee… express yourself, give and take to your hearts desire, if that make you happy. I’m just saying use it responsibly. Have some morals about yourself. I’m just saying if you’re gonna reach out and touch someone like that, at least be honest and care, for real. But if you want REAL and LASTING LOVE, you gotta go deeper than that.

For more pillow talk, check back next week.

"Love"

Heyyy, sorry I’ve been away for a minute, thanx for rockin wit me. So today I’m starting a new series about that nasty four letter word… “L-O-V-E, love.

If I were to come up to you, look you straight in the eyes and say, “I love you…” I bet half of you would be “creeped out” and want to run and the other half might think sex is sure to follow. Why? I think it’s because there’s been a slow decay evolving love into some soupy, hot and nasty, goo that people are afraid to touch. And if they do touch it, they don’t want to hold onto it for any length of time because it may change their world in some negative way. The word love has become so common, it no longer holds sentimentality, honor or commitment of time or fidelity. In fact we do say, “It’s rare to find the kind of love that lasts for a lifetime.” I don’t think its hard to find that kind of love… I think it’s hard to find a person who has the capacity and fortitude to LOVE forever.

Honestly tho, we all have been born with a LOVE shaped hole in our hearts. WE ALL NEED (not just want) LOVE. And so many people who are impacted by loneliness go out looking for a way, a substance, something to fill that space. Its what I call a vacuum need. And its why dating sites are booming right now and bout to heat for real, for real with the holidays around the corner because loneliness is a real struggle when its freaking cold outside. OK, but the “Looking for love” part is a murky business, like a moat full of alligators – make a wrong step and you could be eaten alive. Surely you have catfish, and WHOREmongers looking for pray… wait, why did I just think of Killmonger from the movie “The Black Panther” (Marvel Studios, 2017) with a mark on his body for every person he’s killed? Well you’ve got those folks out there that use sex like that. Those are they that “get off” converting love into lust. In fact you can’t even watch anything anymore without some sort of sex in it. Sex is sooo common we hardly even notice that stuff anymore. That’s called desensitization.

Its funny, there are those who get… those who rarely get, and those who get got. But that is sex… not love. I mean sex is great but it’s become more powerful than love. Love is meant to last forever but it seems like the priority to FEEL GOOD has taken precedence over honor and commitment. The desire to love in that way has grown cold, while the prospect of various sexual experiences continues to get hotter and hotter. And that’s whats up when you’re young… but you won’t be young forever. Back to the “I love you” scenario at the beginning… I want you to do a little test. Ask yourself, what I would I feel at that moment and why? And then picture what you would you do? (And if you keep a journal write your responses down.) The reason I’m asking you this #1) it’s important to know about your own character especially regarding LOVE, and secondly it may point to some brokenness you may need to fix. Here’s the thing, most of us see “love” differently, and that is because of our experiences. If you’ve had toxic relationships you’re likely to see love as a hurtful thing. If you’ve been abused or hurt over and over again, you may have just turned off the whole feeling factory… just shut the doors, turned off the lights… like nobodies home. And for that person, love doesn’t exist. Love can be fickle, or a “many splendid thing”… but I suggest it’s not love that is jacked up – it’s how we handle it. Human beings have this tendency of defining things in order to them (and people.) And we’ve done that with love. Although love cannot be contained or controlled it’s not the wild fire LUST is. But we struggle to know the difference.

In the next coming weeks we’re gonna get down and dirty talking about love/lust and sex. Be here or be square… Same bat time (Saturday at 12 noon) and same channel...