To be honest I started this blog because I wanted to sell my book “4SELF101 Essential Life Skills” And I had so many ideas for the application of the secrets inside… (#survival guides) and much more. The truth is EVERYBODY can benefit from “getting themselves together” #self development. Why? Because no one under the skies are perfect. I’d like to say I’m nearly perfect but the truth is, we are all “jacked up” in one way or another. So the challenge became “How to live an “authentically me” life, to thrive and be happy”.
Back in the day I tried really really hard to “be loved.” Or maybe it was to capture the feeling, IDK. And so I was very clingy and didn’t really know when to leave… even from my friends homes. The truth is, growing up I wanted to be anywhere but home. And most my secret spaces, under the pink honey comb bush or up the plumb tree brought me peace. Even as a child, I was always a very lonely person. At one point I suffered from what I call “a debilitating loneliness.” After every break-up (and I dated a lot of people) I was plunged into a very dark and depressed state. Looking for love… not just in all the wrong places, yeah, but in actuality I was more of a case of “looking for love everywhere I could think of.” Eventually I got frickin’ tired of not getting what I NEED (very strong WANT.) And one day I had an epiphany… like a soft whisper floating on the wind, which blew thru me saying: “What if it’s me?” Poooooooooooof, in a second my whole world shifted and all that I could see before me was a mirror blocking out even the sun. “What if it izzzzzzz me” I thought. And then, like an erupting dormant volcano came the awareness … What if I have hidden ancient scripts, embossed on my psyche, junk passed down to me from the generations before me… running automatically undetected by me – controlling certain thoughts and behaviors. Kind of like “the sins of the father” or in my case, the sins of the mothers. I could see in my imagination a proverbial hamster stuck on a wheel, not of my making but yet active and moving in me, wreaking havoc in my life (#unhealthy behaviors and cycles.) For instance: How does one “not need a man/mate” and at the same time desperately have to have one? Its like a house divided, splitting hairs or an internal tug of war with your self-image at the center. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve said to myself… “Well, hell, is there something wrong with me?” And there was the wind again… “Yes, yes there are many things wrong … starting with, “Who are you, really.” Chasing the answer, took me down spiritual, emotional and intellectual paths of discovery, which many many years later has inexplicably led me here. Here’s what I’ve learned:
To start with, you have to know thyself. Uhhh should I say, BE HONEST do you like you? And if you do, what about yourself do you like? If you don’t like yourself, why not? In fact, right now grab a piece of paper and make 2 lists: 1) Things I like about myself and 2) Things I DON’T like about myself. Add one more list: “Things I am grateful for.” After you’ve finished I want you to think of ways to improve the DON’T likes, and how to CELEBRATE the things you do. Shift your focus from what you don’t like about yourself to being thankful for people and things in your life that are good. You can only love someone if you know them. So the goal is to get to know yourself (maybe all over again) and to fall in love with who you are. You’ve heard it said, “How can anyone else love you if you don’t love yourself.” Notice that it’s not a question but a statement.
Scooch up close and hear this… sometimes subconscious scripts keep us in negative cycles. Counseling is gooooood. And it feels even better to discover issues and get them resolved. You will literally feel a weight lifted, a freedom that you haven’t previously felt. Trust me. Learning to be AUTHENTICALLY You, in every circle in your life is an amazing feeling. But only comes when you are comfortable (and happy) in your own skin, regardless of other peoples’ opinions.
Lastly, I have to say it… To feel worthy of the best, you have to know your own worth. Let me share my secret regarding worth… my value comes from the knowledge that when I was at my worst, Someone loved me so much that He traded His life for mine. And that very act, transformed me being ordinary and on a path of destruction to Supernatural. It transfused royalty into my blood. Moving me from death to life, and life more abundantly. I believe differently, and I walk different, because I know who I am, Whose I am. That’s the secret and the mystery behind it. The knowledge is a treasure that keeps on paying. Get yours, and I can help if you want it. CLICK Here